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Adulting

Adulting

Do you know the first time you ever realised that you are an adult? I don’t think I explicitly remember the first exact moment when I felt like an adult. The term ‘adulting’ comes to mind whenever I think of the responsibilities that we, as university students, have. The truth is, for some, they probably have felt like an adult before even reaching adulthood. This, of course, is heavily influenced by the environment that we grew up in. There are behaviours that young people do that make them feel old because it’s such an ‘old people thing to do’. But what does it really mean to be an adult, and why is ‘adulting’ so hard?
Different people have different ideas to what makes us an adult. We may also have different reasons to be an adult. Although we may be legally an adult, that doesn’t mean we feel like one. I have mixed views on the term ‘adulting’ because it’s subtly hinting that we are pretending to be an adult. As though we have forced ourselves to ‘adult’ rather than allowing ourselves to be or accepting the fact that we are an adult. It appears to be less of a reality than a choice. It makes us seem like we are in denial of growing up.
The real world is fraught and scary. Everyone at different life stages faces different kinds of hardships that life throws at us. Adulting involves a lot of relearning and unlearning when it comes to certain aspects of life, such as finance and relationships, to name a few. In my opinion, it is challenging to be an adult because we believed that we are expected by our society to have a set of skills, knowledge and experience that enable us to be a functional adult. However, in actuality, we don’t believe that we have gained enough to be a functioning adult in the eyes of society. So we pretended to be what society thinks an adult should be like.
Truth be told, there is no specific way to be an adult and nobody really knows how to be an adult. Everyone just goes with the flow because it’s not something we figure out all at once. We don’t even realise when we have become an adult because we are constantly in survival mode and trying to adapt to new things in life. Being an adult means accepting the fact that you are solely responsible for your own life and actions. I agree it is hard because it was never easy for anyone to begin with. It comes hand in hand with substantial significant changes in life, which at first many will struggle to adapt to. Still, it can make us feel fulfilled when we accomplish what we want to achieve as an adult.



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