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Being right vs. being kind

Being right vs. being kind

Hello everyone!

I hope you are all well. I want to take this opportunity to greet all Muslims Ramadan Mubarak! Wishing you all the blessings of the holy month.

Ramadan, as many know, is the month where Muslims around the world fast from dawn to dusk. However, that is not all Ramadan is about. It is also the month that teaches kindness and being humble. So, it got me thinking about the idea of kindness and it made me realise that being kind is not easy. People are often faced with the question to be kind or to be right.

I grew up noticing that being right seems to be valued more than being kind. Everyone wants to be right as if making a mistake or being wrong is such a terrible thing that could happen to them. As I grow older, I started to notice that whether you are right or wrong, it became irrelevant. Deciding who is right or wrong is linked with pride and it seems wrong to me to be proud of being right rather than being kind.

For some people, they may view kindness as a weakness. Kind individuals are seen as weak because they are easily taken advantage of by others and would not stand up to confrontation. What they don’t know is that kindness could be a catalyst for a positive change to the world.

You don’t have to get back at people for being rude to you. Yes, it is hard to be kind to someone who did not think twice to hurt you, but kindness is a choice. As F. Scott Fitzgerald said, “To be kind is more important than to be right. Many times, what people need is not a brilliant mind but a special heart that listens” It is easier to just hurt people back for hurting you because hatred seems more natural to us. We need to be stronger so the cycle of hurting others can end. Remember that people who hurt others are hurt too.

We do not need to be given reasons to be kind to each other. We should be kind regardless because showing kindness and compassion gives us and others the chance to improve, heal or change. No one should have to beg for or give reasons why they deserve kindness from others. Kindness should be a basic human right. Being kind is a way to encourage others to do the same and we always have the choice of being kind to each other no matter what the circumstances are. It holds great power to alleviate the suffering or lighten the load for someone.

A simple act of kindness is all it could take to make the world a better place for everyone. The chain reaction of kindness can start with you. You can be the reason someone becomes inspired to be good or the opposite. Be the change we all wish to see in the world. Don’t be intimidated or scared to be kind. Choose to lift people’s spirits up by being kind.

Being kind could also mean you are being right, because being kind is the right thing to do.



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