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HABITS WE SHOULD ADOPT TO BE HAPPY

HABITS WE SHOULD ADOPT TO BE HAPPY
  • LET GO OF THINGS OUTSIDE OF YOUR CONTROL
  • Letting go is difficult because holding on to something becomes a habit to us, especially when we have associated the things we hold on to, to part of our life or our identity. It is understandable and reasonable to be afraid of letting something go because we have grown emotionally and mentally dependent on it. We may have believed that it provides the security and happiness we craved so much in our life. It also traps us in the past and keeps us from truly living our lives. If we want to be happy and free, then we need to learn to let go. We should try to believe that we won’t lose what we have and have faith that we will overcome this unhealthy attachment to allow and welcome greater things and more happiness into our lives. We shouldn’t depend on others for our happiness. We are responsible for our happiness, and that is within our control.
  • PRACTICE GRATITUDE
  • Practicing gratitude is strongly and consistently linked with feelings of greater happiness. Psychological research has proven that people who practice gratitude regularly experience more positive emotions, feel more alive, sleep better, express more compassion and kindness, and even have a stronger immune system! With gratitude, people acknowledge the goodness in their lives. It doesn’t have to be for something like an event or special occasion; it could be expressed for something as small as having a roof over your head. It is finding or noticing something new to be grateful for every day that changes the way we perceive situations by adjusting what we choose to focus on. It allows us to be thankful and content for what we have in the present rather than making us greedy and wanting more.
  • GIVE WITHOUT EXPECTING ANYTHING IN RETURN
  • We should give others something because we want to and have the ways to help others, not because we need to, or for people to return the favour to us. We will often find ourselves disappointed if we expect something in return for what we chose to do for other people. Yes, people ask for help but it is still our decision to help them, so really, we have no one to blame but ourselves for expecting something from them. When we give unconditionally, we will often get something back without even realising it! A simple act of giving unconditionally may be the start of a ripple effect, so everyone will start to be kind and nice to each other. There’s a great sense of selflessness in being able to give with zero expectations of return.
  • STOP COMPARING YOURSELVES TO OTHERS.
  • We can’t help comparing ourselves to others because we live in a world where everything seems to be a competition. It is pointless to compare yourself to others because everyone has different goals and passions. Mark Twain said, “Comparison is the death of joy.” Comparison can help in identifying differences, but there is always a hint of deciding which one is better than the other. This could be damaging to our sense of self. If comparing is how you evaluate your worth, you will always lose in life. You will never reach a point where you are better than others in life; it is impossible to be the best at something because there 8 billion people in this world, and not one person is the best at something. It also means that we take pleasure in someone else’s failure or misfortunes to feel adequate for ourselves. We should focus on being the very best version of ourselves and redirect our energy and attention to our own goals and what is acquired to achieve them.
  • TRUST YOURSELF.
  • Stop doubting your ability to be happy in life. If you want to be satisfied you need to trust yourself. If you cannot trust yourself, you are powerless to make good choices. You will end up making choices based on the pressure or opinions of others. Stop looking to others to tell you how to live your life or to give you a temporary fix to your problems that ensued because you did not trust yourself initially. Even if people give you advice, the one deciding should be you. No one knows you like how you know yourself, so only you truly know what’s best for you. Don’t be scared to listen to that voice inside of us, guiding us to our path of happiness. Trusting yourself puts you in the driver’s seat and allows you to be in control of your life.


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